Do you have many interests? Is choosing one thing to focus on too difficult for you? It is for me! I think I would die if I could only do one thing. I thank God that I live in a country that allows us to choose our destinies.
I know there are studies proving that MultiTasking or zigzagging is not efficient in the work place. I believe this is true for a job. People are specialized for a reason; they can accomplish their tasks and projects needed by their companies to profit and improve their field and services. But, the bosses and owners have to oversee a sea of things. They are likely looking at many little things in their grand schemes. Like Donald Trump, Bill Gates, Dr. Oz, Dr. Myron Wentz, Patrick Bet-David, etc., They need trusted specialists to delegate tasks to and have confidence they know their jobs so that work will be completed to their standards. All these people have high standards. Think about people like Ty Pennington and Ryan Seacrest. How do they get to do so many things? Multitasking! There is a blessing to hyperactivity and attention deficits, even mania; they really are strengths.
There is too much to know in a given, short, life time. Trump chose Real Estate from a young age because he was mentored by his father, but his dynasty is multifaceted. Dr. Wentz had to chose between music and scientific endeavors in preventative medicine, but has built USANA to address many health concerns. Patrick Bet-David, author of Doing the Impossible, is deveopling the fastest growing financial services firm to help save America's middle class! I could go on. But the point is they need experts for specific things. I am not an expert, but I want and need a lot of specialists surrounding me.
Like this week I am going to get my taxes done; I am not going to the plummer for that!
So, what do you do for your personal growth and satisfaction when you like a lot of things? The way I see it is, you "build dreams and people will come." What is your "Field of Dreams?" And, how much of it can you build in the life you may or may not have left? Who will help you? and how will what you build help them?
I have put all of my most precious interests into the pot of my life. Each project has been like a strand of Spaghetti. In fact, I have several kinds of skinny pasta brewing in the same pot. In stirring and cooking it for a long time, I can see that some noodles are musch now, and some are too firm, but when I test the texture of my cuisine, I throw it on the wall to see what sticks. What sticks is on my list? What sticks best is on the top of my list; what's on the back burner on a low temp is on the bottom of my list.
Some of my close associates and mentors differ in their opinions. I have a littany of things I do listed after my signature in my email to folks I know. These are not business or company letters, yet. I don't get paid for most of them, yet. ('Key word: yet!) But, when people start taking what I do seriously and find value it what I am putting together, my dreams will come to pass and many people will benefit from my list when things come to fruition. When I have established my personal branding, I can drop the long list behind my sig. becasue enough people will know what I am all about and all I do.
Only a few people have found my list of personal interests and affliations distainable. Why? After all, no one else, especially professionals, have such a long list behind their name. All I can say is, "Well, I am not like everyone else." What's that saying, "...those that matter don't mind"? I think if there is a rule book on this, it is man-made and limiting. Does our Divine Power care how much or little we put behind a signature? My attitude:I am not like everyone; this sets me apart from mediocrity. I do things to make people realize there is something unique and special about me and what I am developing. I wonder what percentage of the population feels they must conform to a signature style in their personal emails. I think that part of the grammar book is obsolete. Look at how people dress, many styles are "in".
That is why I like being an entrepreneur. Heck, if Richard Branson can do as much as he does, do "yo thin" it matters how he signs his emails. So can I, have my own bylines, with meager means I have so far. So can you! If you, thrive on diversity, creativity and your "out of this earth" imagination, you won't allow people to set limits on you. Every day, nearly every minute, I am working on my dreams. When they come to pass, many people will not know all the work that went into them. But, my closest friends and associates will know because they see my bucket list every time I send them and email.
I am thankful for my mentors, Chris Lopez, George Fox, Robert Hirabayashi, Mike Watts, Kate Northup, Collette Larson, Denis Waitley, Kathy Kahler, GemmaRae Hughes, John Assaraf, Dr. Denis Waitley, Robert G Allen, Frank Kern, Robert Kyosaki, Donald Trump, Anthony Robins, Eric Lofholm, Cheri Tree, Brenda Avadavian, Gabriel Swan, Jason and Dianna Graziani, Ken Serna, Alfredo Garcia, Matt Coulthard and countless others who are showing me how to build with all they have to offer and knowlwedge they generously share.
Robert Hirabayashi wrote a book, Your Rate Race Escape Plan, Transition out of you 9 to 5 Job. Robert is my friend. He makes it really clear on page 56 people need to get of have a job that supports them and then some before thay can transition to entrepreneurship.
I am happy and excited that I interviewed for Agriculture Inspector Trainee with the County of Ventura this week. I am on pins waiting to know if they will hire me. My close friends and associates will know from an email soon if I got the job. I can see myself specializing in Agriculture for a career since I have dabbled in it all my life. However, will the retirement income from that job or any job be enough?
I know and have witnessed over and over again (with each passing granparent) the exhuberant costs of being elderly! A day job is not enough if this day and age. People need two and three jobs to support their families. Having a job with residual or royalty-like income is essential if you want a lifestyle that is more than mere survival.
So, Gabe has simplified it even more for me recently: For right now, since my mom is on hospice, my concentration for PHP needs to be on making phone calls and appointments. My current focus is "good paying steady job first, mom and PHP until I am on my feet! The next 60 days are crucial so I can help my mom financially.
Twenty years times 52 weeks equals, the same number of a form we use to file our taxes: 1040. If a person only has 20 years left they have some choices to make, spend it focused on one or a few big things. As an entrepreneur, I have a launching-list of things I want to A-ccomplish before I kick the bucket. Working this list is not quite like a "bucket list" because there you check things off as they are done and never do it again. My list is not my "to do" task list (although, I do have that for each project). My launching-list is part of the legacy that I want to get off the ground that will live on long after I am gone. It should evolve with my posterity. Hopefully my various company teams get larger so that they leave behind prosperity for many people that break cycles of poverty.
So my process in building big dreams is to try weaving all my passions together that bring myself and others joy. Together we will see what sticks! My autolist below my email signature is my way of making sure my associates, friends and family know what is going on in my professional and personal life.
For those who have varied desires, for the human who only has about 1000 weekends left in their life, then multitasking and zigzagging from project to project, to complete tasks after task, is the fastest way to get the most accomplished in a lifetime, (not at work or a job). The finish line is important! Finish what you have to do to move forward to the next phase in life or work! There are only so many burners on the stove and loops on a race track. You will know you have done a good job, when what you do sticks!
That is how I test to see if my spaghetti is ready to eat. Really, I am not kidding, I throw a cooked spahgetti noodle on the wall! If it sticks, it's ready. In the end, biblically, all things will be written on a wall. Ready or not....
Wednesday, March 13, 2013
Sunday, January 13, 2013
Learning how to have a Radio Show
I have set aside Sundays at 3 PM to interview people by phone and broadcast on the Internet:
Be the Captain of Your Soul
Go to http://www.blogtalkradio.com/kandidkate or dial in to listen (347)945-7704.
I have to "conquer" this radio talk skill as part of my destiny. The hardest part so far has been getting to the computer every Sunday at 3 PM. Something always seems to get in the way. It is most peoples day of rest. So I thought it might be fun to relax and talk on the this blog radio every Sunday.
Why did I pick Sunday? Mostly as a day of reflection and way to get focused for the week and help others do the same.
I am all about learning. I firmly believe we learn from each other do matter what our station is in life.
And those of us who have learned the hard way, make great teachers of what not to do! We need to take heed from those who were smart enough to make their dreams and the dreams of others come true. In thse hard economic times, some people may be really down right depressed. The doldrums have kept the economy still for too long. Only the wind that we create on our own will get our sails pumped; only collectively, can we gain speed. In other words, everybody has to get this economic ship moving! Talk is the pump; action is what happens when we all do our part: Part time, quarter time, full time or in some cases, all of the time. What's on your scedule at 3 PM, Sunday? I hope you can join me. Call (347)945-7704. I say that so that I will be held accountible to this dream of skill building.
In this show, I will share what I've been doing in hopes it will help you share what you have been doing to make this world a better place. Think Globally, but act locally! Someday, your local action will reach around the globe. And if that reach is done on the Internet, it can happen faster than your pocket book could take you.
For example, I want to learn how to speak Portuguese and see Portugal. I can do that by books and the Internet now for low to no cost. These are preparatory steps to the real deal. But, I have to be realistic. Life is short! Unless I take massive action today and every day, I may never get to Europe. But the thought of that is new in my head and I may hve 20 years left to accomplish it. 20 years is only 1040 Sundays away. Every week is valuable because we never get them back!
So for now I need to at least spend one day a week learning how to reach via BTR: Blog Talk Radio. I already have people in mind to interview. If you are interested in sharing your wisdom with me, drop me a line.
In a world of absurdities, we need to be able to speak more candidly. As a credentialed teacher, I am so tired of political correctness that skirt issues. I like to be able to straight talk with my students, parents, bosses, friends and family ... without worry about offending them with honesty. How will we ever get better as humans if we can't unveil what folks don't like to admit about life, death, and what really matters when it comes to healing, love and money, much less, admit they deserve a grade on a report card. What is worse than getting an "A" and still not feeling good enough. "Enough is enough!" I am about being a change catalyst to overall health: mental, physical, fiscal and spiritual. I am about being an advocate for people who take responsibility. I strive to "be the change I want to see in the world." I am enough if I am doing my best!
What is your best? What do you offer people to help them? In turn how does that help yourself and others?
I want to help people change the things they can to make life better and easier. And, like the Serenity Prayer says, with wisdom, help people discern the difference of what we have no control to be able to move forward, up and over hurdles to getting back the American Dream. Keep in mind this concept is fast becoming World Dreams in a Global Economy. Being the Captain of your Soul is meant to help people take their life in any direction(s)and distance(s) they desire.
For example, I desire a better body so that it is easier to function. The key here is doing the hard work to get a stronger body. It's up to me. Only I can exercise my body to make it easier to lift, pull, push: and work. The pain to gain is such that the dream to master something has to be greater that the fears or unwillingness to be disciplined. In other words, how bad do we want the change we say we do?
Though I am a novice at Blog Talk Radio, my life is rich with experiences. I want this program to be used for enriching the lives of others: how healthy we are on all levels in the continuum of space and time.
I am a folksy person and will speak candidly to get to the root of issues. I am so tired of issues not being dealt with directly and constructively. It seems as if too many of people, including myself, are in denial about so much in life. Death and taxes are real; so, let's get real about dealing with the present and doing something today to prepare for the future. Let's talk prevention of practical problems, preparation to handle the inevitable, and choose to accept our final destinations no matter how we get there.
Own your journey; you are the captain of your soul. Only you can "conquer yourself". ~Invictus
Be the Captain of Your Soul
Go to http://www.blogtalkradio.com/kandidkate or dial in to listen (347)945-7704.
I have to "conquer" this radio talk skill as part of my destiny. The hardest part so far has been getting to the computer every Sunday at 3 PM. Something always seems to get in the way. It is most peoples day of rest. So I thought it might be fun to relax and talk on the this blog radio every Sunday.
Why did I pick Sunday? Mostly as a day of reflection and way to get focused for the week and help others do the same.
I am all about learning. I firmly believe we learn from each other do matter what our station is in life.
And those of us who have learned the hard way, make great teachers of what not to do! We need to take heed from those who were smart enough to make their dreams and the dreams of others come true. In thse hard economic times, some people may be really down right depressed. The doldrums have kept the economy still for too long. Only the wind that we create on our own will get our sails pumped; only collectively, can we gain speed. In other words, everybody has to get this economic ship moving! Talk is the pump; action is what happens when we all do our part: Part time, quarter time, full time or in some cases, all of the time. What's on your scedule at 3 PM, Sunday? I hope you can join me. Call (347)945-7704. I say that so that I will be held accountible to this dream of skill building.
In this show, I will share what I've been doing in hopes it will help you share what you have been doing to make this world a better place. Think Globally, but act locally! Someday, your local action will reach around the globe. And if that reach is done on the Internet, it can happen faster than your pocket book could take you.
For example, I want to learn how to speak Portuguese and see Portugal. I can do that by books and the Internet now for low to no cost. These are preparatory steps to the real deal. But, I have to be realistic. Life is short! Unless I take massive action today and every day, I may never get to Europe. But the thought of that is new in my head and I may hve 20 years left to accomplish it. 20 years is only 1040 Sundays away. Every week is valuable because we never get them back!
So for now I need to at least spend one day a week learning how to reach via BTR: Blog Talk Radio. I already have people in mind to interview. If you are interested in sharing your wisdom with me, drop me a line.
In a world of absurdities, we need to be able to speak more candidly. As a credentialed teacher, I am so tired of political correctness that skirt issues. I like to be able to straight talk with my students, parents, bosses, friends and family ... without worry about offending them with honesty. How will we ever get better as humans if we can't unveil what folks don't like to admit about life, death, and what really matters when it comes to healing, love and money, much less, admit they deserve a grade on a report card. What is worse than getting an "A" and still not feeling good enough. "Enough is enough!" I am about being a change catalyst to overall health: mental, physical, fiscal and spiritual. I am about being an advocate for people who take responsibility. I strive to "be the change I want to see in the world." I am enough if I am doing my best!
What is your best? What do you offer people to help them? In turn how does that help yourself and others?
I want to help people change the things they can to make life better and easier. And, like the Serenity Prayer says, with wisdom, help people discern the difference of what we have no control to be able to move forward, up and over hurdles to getting back the American Dream. Keep in mind this concept is fast becoming World Dreams in a Global Economy. Being the Captain of your Soul is meant to help people take their life in any direction(s)and distance(s) they desire.
For example, I desire a better body so that it is easier to function. The key here is doing the hard work to get a stronger body. It's up to me. Only I can exercise my body to make it easier to lift, pull, push: and work. The pain to gain is such that the dream to master something has to be greater that the fears or unwillingness to be disciplined. In other words, how bad do we want the change we say we do?
Though I am a novice at Blog Talk Radio, my life is rich with experiences. I want this program to be used for enriching the lives of others: how healthy we are on all levels in the continuum of space and time.
I am a folksy person and will speak candidly to get to the root of issues. I am so tired of issues not being dealt with directly and constructively. It seems as if too many of people, including myself, are in denial about so much in life. Death and taxes are real; so, let's get real about dealing with the present and doing something today to prepare for the future. Let's talk prevention of practical problems, preparation to handle the inevitable, and choose to accept our final destinations no matter how we get there.
Own your journey; you are the captain of your soul. Only you can "conquer yourself". ~Invictus
Thursday, August 30, 2012
Teaching vs. Entrepreneurship
My friends and family have known for a while of my entrepreneurial ventures. Few know of my ultimate dream to be an owner of a dance company. And though they may support me is spirit, they don't acutally support any of my dreams by buying anything from me. Therefore, I am compelled to continue applying for traditional jobs.
What saddens me is that, in this day and economic age, most traditional jobs do not support an individual in a nice home of their own. Thus, cost of living is the reason to marry or live with relatives or roommates. Years ago, I was the marrying type before I was jaded by one too many partners. I do not believe that I will find a mate who will desire the greatness I desire, and I know that is what would work for me. In time, as I change me, my belief in meeting the right cohort for me may change. Roomates are an option that I am seriously considering, but again I must have professional and entrpreneurial compatibility there too. I would like to hang with a person like Sir Richard Branson. Some one who is not afraid to take calculated risks to reach the stars. I have one girlfriend, Patti who is a close like minded professional who wants what I want. Liberty and freedom to be a small business owner! So we are working on getting positioned, getting our ducks in order. I am greatful for her!
Alsa, in the meantime, I had an interview yesterday to substitute teach for Ventura Unified School District. I thought the interview went well and settled my anieties about not knowing for sure how well I was received with that saying, "you can't say the wrong thing to the right person...." I can only hope VUSD values what I have to offer them. If not, they are not the right district for me. They did steer me to the County Office of Education to get my transcripts evaluated so that I can teach single subjects. Eventually I want the following single subject teaching authorizations: Biology, PE, Health, and Agriculture. Pyschology is also of big interest to me way down the road. I want to get a Nutritional Therapy Certificate and more. I will start CERT training next Wednesday for 6 weeks and willbe preparing to give emergency preparedness presentations at shools and organizations. But honestly, I think I am educated enough and have enough peices of paper. I just want to create "proof in the pudding" and get on with making a living. If getting back into teaching is going to be harder than breaking into "show biz," I will still be the "captain of my soul" as
What saddens me is that, in this day and economic age, most traditional jobs do not support an individual in a nice home of their own. Thus, cost of living is the reason to marry or live with relatives or roommates. Years ago, I was the marrying type before I was jaded by one too many partners. I do not believe that I will find a mate who will desire the greatness I desire, and I know that is what would work for me. In time, as I change me, my belief in meeting the right cohort for me may change. Roomates are an option that I am seriously considering, but again I must have professional and entrpreneurial compatibility there too. I would like to hang with a person like Sir Richard Branson. Some one who is not afraid to take calculated risks to reach the stars. I have one girlfriend, Patti who is a close like minded professional who wants what I want. Liberty and freedom to be a small business owner! So we are working on getting positioned, getting our ducks in order. I am greatful for her!
Alsa, in the meantime, I had an interview yesterday to substitute teach for Ventura Unified School District. I thought the interview went well and settled my anieties about not knowing for sure how well I was received with that saying, "you can't say the wrong thing to the right person...." I can only hope VUSD values what I have to offer them. If not, they are not the right district for me. They did steer me to the County Office of Education to get my transcripts evaluated so that I can teach single subjects. Eventually I want the following single subject teaching authorizations: Biology, PE, Health, and Agriculture. Pyschology is also of big interest to me way down the road. I want to get a Nutritional Therapy Certificate and more. I will start CERT training next Wednesday for 6 weeks and willbe preparing to give emergency preparedness presentations at shools and organizations. But honestly, I think I am educated enough and have enough peices of paper. I just want to create "proof in the pudding" and get on with making a living. If getting back into teaching is going to be harder than breaking into "show biz," I will still be the "captain of my soul" as
William Ernest Henley put it in words so well:
Invictus
Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.
So incase you do not know me, my soul wants to dance, iceskate, play tennis, play golf, swim, sing, garden, write, teach, public speak, become wealthy enough to leave a legacy with lots of funding for current and future generations. And to be honest, if my friends and family are not with me, I feel like they are against me. So that is when and why, I will search for those who are with me. To the scrooges and misers in the world, all I can say is what Tiny Tim said, "God love us one and all." My grandparents were entrepreneurs. Let's fix the economy by supporting each others trades and services. Be the change you want to see in the world! Money is like maneurer; it does no good unless you spread it around. My most high prayer is that I can always be a generous person!
Supporting Small Business Owners is a way to support America!
So incase you do not know me, my soul wants to dance, iceskate, play tennis, play golf, swim, sing, garden, write, teach, public speak, become wealthy enough to leave a legacy with lots of funding for current and future generations. And to be honest, if my friends and family are not with me, I feel like they are against me. So that is when and why, I will search for those who are with me. To the scrooges and misers in the world, all I can say is what Tiny Tim said, "God love us one and all." My grandparents were entrepreneurs. Let's fix the economy by supporting each others trades and services. Be the change you want to see in the world! Money is like maneurer; it does no good unless you spread it around. My most high prayer is that I can always be a generous person!
Supporting Small Business Owners is a way to support America!
Thursday, May 03, 2012
I was there to witness this! Frailty after 40 is killer!
Compare a smokers lungs to healthy lungs.
What happens to you when you have heart disease?
See and hear the animation from Dr. Oz.
Stress is addressed with an easy minute by minute fix.
Do you have blood sugar issues. Diabetes is costing us our future!
What are you and I going to do about it ???
Taking responsibility for our health will help our economy!!!
And the best benefit is that we can improve the quality of our lives and our families' joys.
Please let's get off our duffs and do something, not just talk about it.
Candidly, KandidKate.
Sunday, April 22, 2012
Educational Family Road Trip Tips
How to plan an educational road trip for the family
Inspire your children with images. What’s on your coffee table? Do you have magazines about National Parks, Ranger Rick or National Geographic? What’s on your walls? Do you have pictures of Yosemite or the Grand Canyon? What’s in your wallet? It may not be capital, but you have dreams to lead your family on adventures.
Where on earth can you do this? Imagine taking four kids (or a family of four) to stand in four states at the same time, and take a snapshot of this! “How is that possible?” the children will think. Leave this concept open for anticipation!
My dad and mom knew how to intrigue their four children. Sometimes they would add a couple cousins and collies into a ‘56 Chevy for two weeks every summer and drive us cross country, into Mexico and up to Canada to explore and feel the geography and geology of this planet. They took us back in time by talking about with inhabitants who came before us. This pioneering spirit gets passed down through generations if the experiences are filled with pleasurable memories, even if there are mishaps.
Imagine going over the Continental Divide? The kids will keep asking, “What is a continental divide?” You don’t necessarily need the answers to your questions; you just need questions to raise curiosity. Sometimes the terms you use in your children’s youth will resonate when they graduate from college. Their sense of appreciation for knowledge and experiences will be heightened because they had first hand or hands on knowledge from your road trips. Trust that such excursions will be your legacy. You will be providing your children with something that can never be taken away from them.
So let’s get on the road here and pack your trunk with tools you may need to help you on your way:
1st, get a map! Map the trip out, but be prepared for anything! Spontaneity and the unexpected will occur, guaranteed, but such events teach children to go with the flow and adapt to situations. Literally map out as much as you can. You will need the distance between destinations to be reasonable for the comfort of your children based upon their age. Children need to move! Being cramped in a car for too long will make for cranky-moods and potential illnesses. Fresh air and room to run every couple hours may take you longer to get to your destinations, but it helps you smell the roses along the way. If you have friends along the way, this is a good time to visit them as a weigh-station. Calling them in advance to let them know your plans and to see if they are available when you will be passing through ensures your welcome arrival and departure.
2nd, know your budget for gas, food and accommodations. Do the math on your miles per gallon and allow for a weighted car. If you are on a tight budget, friends along the way may be a place you can spend the night. See if camping is more your style, but have funds for a motel incase of inclement weather. Treat yourselves to restaurants that have historical significance. Ask the locals for suggestions. Also, let your children pick out some of their favorite snacks to pack. Prepare some cold recipes in advance like fried chicken, potato salad, coleslaw, deviled eggs, and veggie-dips and trays. A cooler of food that you do not have to cook will save you time and lots of money along the way. Picnics serve three purposes: They save you money, time and help the kids get ants out of their pants.
3rd, prepare for the unexpected. Many road trips are riffed with mechanical trouble that could be costly, like a broken fan belt. Have enough money in an account to cover at least $888 in repairs! If you are travelling on a Sunday or holiday like Thanksgiving or Christmas, be prepared to spend money for a hotel room until the auto repair shops open the next day. If snafus happen, make the best of them. Have and auto club like membership to tow your car and even provide discounts on hotels.
4th, make each experience educational. Include your children in the planning and measuring pros and cons and figuring mitigations plans to adapt to situations. For example, a family of four plans a trip to see nine California Missions in nine days.
Even though they did not have a GPS in their car, the parent got Google map directions to help them go from mission to mission to mission. One of those sets led them on a goose chase! They ended up in a newly constructed community with the same name as the mission. So that mission was scratched from the trip. They found a place to picnic where they could feed a block of geese. Just as well, later they learn the mission they were looking for was so run down it no longer open to the public. Google and GPS are not guarantees to getting where you want to be; this in itself is an important lesson to learn.
5th, have portable DVD players for kids now a days. In the old days, we could have kids easily entertained by singing songs, counting hay trucks or cows. Children today, have a need from much more stimulation. Also they can feel deprived when the ride along at night and see many cars with built in video devices. Imagine what Father Serra and his group of horse back wagon riding missionaries would think if they saw El Real Camino (101 HWY) full of cars and glow and speed or traffic jams through Santa Barbara or Encino, CA just a tiny 200 years later. Take kids back in time to imagine what it must have been like to travel this way without cell phones but just a bell to ring to hear where the path leads. Children begin to appreciate what they have. Still, if modern technology is what we need today, designate a portion of the time to look out the window to see the country side. Find DVDs about your destinations, to reinforce your educational goals.
6th, research features along the road, or prior to your trip. You may find Wi-Fi spots or have a Smart Phone with you to search on the web while you are on the road. You may have specialized knowledge yourself. Be the tour guide, for your children. If you know where the San Andreas Fault is exposed, point it out to your children and have a conversation about how land is formed from Plate-tectonics. Imagine that all we see use to be covered with sea water. It is highly recommended that you study a little to explain what your children may ask about. And, if you don’t have the answer, show them how to research it!
7th, plan a looped tour. See different terrain and scenic spots on the return route home. This may be a chance of a life time. You may never pass this way again. So, you want to get the maximum out of your educational excursion. If you live in the desert and your children have never seen the ocean, you owe it to your children to not be deprived of experiencing what this earth has to offer. If you live in the green belt, your children deserve to view the browns and golden hues of the western states. The climb over the Rocky Mountains is worth it no matter which side of that range you live! Take a northern route there and a southern route on your return. If your destinations are north or south from where you start, veer to east on your tour and bend a bit to the west on your way back. Perhaps you can follow a historical path of Indians or a group of people. Imagine what it would have been like to be pioneers! Appreciate the paths that have been paved for us because of trail blazers like John C. Fremont, John Muir or explores like Lewis and Clark. Chart your own expedition and make it part of your own family’s heritage.
8th, be flexible. Nothing can spoil a family trip faster than if you feel you must get to every destination on a strict schedule. This is not a school field trip. The goal is for you and your children to retain historical memories for your family to reminisce about many years from now, and to enhance what and how your children learn throughout their schooling and life. Stress and painful memories can easily be block or forgotten or even regurgitate a bad sensation when memories are triggered years later. Remember that, like life, the trip is not necessarily about the destination as much as what we learn a long the journey.
9th, document your trip, especially those that depict the historical, cultural and scientific aspects of the knowledge you gained along the way. Take pictures; make some Slide-shows and videos; write an e-book; create a scrap book; draft a map of your path for others to follow.
So, whether your destination is the Four Corners Monument in the western desert or around the girth earth, your trip will set a tone for future generations in your family to appreciate how far mankind has come and where we are headed.
Inspire your children with images. What’s on your coffee table? Do you have magazines about National Parks, Ranger Rick or National Geographic? What’s on your walls? Do you have pictures of Yosemite or the Grand Canyon? What’s in your wallet? It may not be capital, but you have dreams to lead your family on adventures.
Where on earth can you do this? Imagine taking four kids (or a family of four) to stand in four states at the same time, and take a snapshot of this! “How is that possible?” the children will think. Leave this concept open for anticipation!
My dad and mom knew how to intrigue their four children. Sometimes they would add a couple cousins and collies into a ‘56 Chevy for two weeks every summer and drive us cross country, into Mexico and up to Canada to explore and feel the geography and geology of this planet. They took us back in time by talking about with inhabitants who came before us. This pioneering spirit gets passed down through generations if the experiences are filled with pleasurable memories, even if there are mishaps.
Imagine going over the Continental Divide? The kids will keep asking, “What is a continental divide?” You don’t necessarily need the answers to your questions; you just need questions to raise curiosity. Sometimes the terms you use in your children’s youth will resonate when they graduate from college. Their sense of appreciation for knowledge and experiences will be heightened because they had first hand or hands on knowledge from your road trips. Trust that such excursions will be your legacy. You will be providing your children with something that can never be taken away from them.
So let’s get on the road here and pack your trunk with tools you may need to help you on your way:
1st, get a map! Map the trip out, but be prepared for anything! Spontaneity and the unexpected will occur, guaranteed, but such events teach children to go with the flow and adapt to situations. Literally map out as much as you can. You will need the distance between destinations to be reasonable for the comfort of your children based upon their age. Children need to move! Being cramped in a car for too long will make for cranky-moods and potential illnesses. Fresh air and room to run every couple hours may take you longer to get to your destinations, but it helps you smell the roses along the way. If you have friends along the way, this is a good time to visit them as a weigh-station. Calling them in advance to let them know your plans and to see if they are available when you will be passing through ensures your welcome arrival and departure.
2nd, know your budget for gas, food and accommodations. Do the math on your miles per gallon and allow for a weighted car. If you are on a tight budget, friends along the way may be a place you can spend the night. See if camping is more your style, but have funds for a motel incase of inclement weather. Treat yourselves to restaurants that have historical significance. Ask the locals for suggestions. Also, let your children pick out some of their favorite snacks to pack. Prepare some cold recipes in advance like fried chicken, potato salad, coleslaw, deviled eggs, and veggie-dips and trays. A cooler of food that you do not have to cook will save you time and lots of money along the way. Picnics serve three purposes: They save you money, time and help the kids get ants out of their pants.
3rd, prepare for the unexpected. Many road trips are riffed with mechanical trouble that could be costly, like a broken fan belt. Have enough money in an account to cover at least $888 in repairs! If you are travelling on a Sunday or holiday like Thanksgiving or Christmas, be prepared to spend money for a hotel room until the auto repair shops open the next day. If snafus happen, make the best of them. Have and auto club like membership to tow your car and even provide discounts on hotels.
4th, make each experience educational. Include your children in the planning and measuring pros and cons and figuring mitigations plans to adapt to situations. For example, a family of four plans a trip to see nine California Missions in nine days.
Even though they did not have a GPS in their car, the parent got Google map directions to help them go from mission to mission to mission. One of those sets led them on a goose chase! They ended up in a newly constructed community with the same name as the mission. So that mission was scratched from the trip. They found a place to picnic where they could feed a block of geese. Just as well, later they learn the mission they were looking for was so run down it no longer open to the public. Google and GPS are not guarantees to getting where you want to be; this in itself is an important lesson to learn.
5th, have portable DVD players for kids now a days. In the old days, we could have kids easily entertained by singing songs, counting hay trucks or cows. Children today, have a need from much more stimulation. Also they can feel deprived when the ride along at night and see many cars with built in video devices. Imagine what Father Serra and his group of horse back wagon riding missionaries would think if they saw El Real Camino (101 HWY) full of cars and glow and speed or traffic jams through Santa Barbara or Encino, CA just a tiny 200 years later. Take kids back in time to imagine what it must have been like to travel this way without cell phones but just a bell to ring to hear where the path leads. Children begin to appreciate what they have. Still, if modern technology is what we need today, designate a portion of the time to look out the window to see the country side. Find DVDs about your destinations, to reinforce your educational goals.
6th, research features along the road, or prior to your trip. You may find Wi-Fi spots or have a Smart Phone with you to search on the web while you are on the road. You may have specialized knowledge yourself. Be the tour guide, for your children. If you know where the San Andreas Fault is exposed, point it out to your children and have a conversation about how land is formed from Plate-tectonics. Imagine that all we see use to be covered with sea water. It is highly recommended that you study a little to explain what your children may ask about. And, if you don’t have the answer, show them how to research it!
7th, plan a looped tour. See different terrain and scenic spots on the return route home. This may be a chance of a life time. You may never pass this way again. So, you want to get the maximum out of your educational excursion. If you live in the desert and your children have never seen the ocean, you owe it to your children to not be deprived of experiencing what this earth has to offer. If you live in the green belt, your children deserve to view the browns and golden hues of the western states. The climb over the Rocky Mountains is worth it no matter which side of that range you live! Take a northern route there and a southern route on your return. If your destinations are north or south from where you start, veer to east on your tour and bend a bit to the west on your way back. Perhaps you can follow a historical path of Indians or a group of people. Imagine what it would have been like to be pioneers! Appreciate the paths that have been paved for us because of trail blazers like John C. Fremont, John Muir or explores like Lewis and Clark. Chart your own expedition and make it part of your own family’s heritage.
8th, be flexible. Nothing can spoil a family trip faster than if you feel you must get to every destination on a strict schedule. This is not a school field trip. The goal is for you and your children to retain historical memories for your family to reminisce about many years from now, and to enhance what and how your children learn throughout their schooling and life. Stress and painful memories can easily be block or forgotten or even regurgitate a bad sensation when memories are triggered years later. Remember that, like life, the trip is not necessarily about the destination as much as what we learn a long the journey.
9th, document your trip, especially those that depict the historical, cultural and scientific aspects of the knowledge you gained along the way. Take pictures; make some Slide-shows and videos; write an e-book; create a scrap book; draft a map of your path for others to follow.
So, whether your destination is the Four Corners Monument in the western desert or around the girth earth, your trip will set a tone for future generations in your family to appreciate how far mankind has come and where we are headed.
Sunday, April 08, 2012
Networking at Churches
This is written in response to going to a church for help in finding employment:
Like most churches: They are only good for prayer. They do not help people get gainfully employed. Their real and main interest is in converting people (and getting their 10%.) I don't want to read the book of mormon (or the bible as mine is marked up plenty and rolled edges from much use), and it keeps getting pushed on me. I want to be accepted for who I am ( a good child of God, created by Him, not man[period]). Conversion rhymes in my mind with Coercion. God accepts us for who we are; why can't humans do the same.
You know me: I do not like dogma! I actually despise it. Humans make rule books to control the masses, and keep us in lowly places. The few at the top like it that way.
I do not believe or see mormans/catholics/baptists etc. being of any networking help to me. I already approached the two Chiropractor (priests) from that church (long before you took me to that church.) They know I need a job to pay for chiropractic, and they know I do Usana. Still, they told me a relative of theirs sells Usana so they can't help me. People with affiliations can come from anywhere. So I will keep seeking the Kingdom of God in all, not a specific ethnicity.
What~ever, I see wards (churches) as a closed shops; they only help their own, and I am not one of them.
Word: Ward is a word that has uncomfortable connotations for me.
Ward is to anguish as Mental Ward is to Locked up
Ward : control :: Prison Ward : serving a sentence
Ward : pain :: Maternity Ward : intense labor
None of these seem appealing to me. Relief comes when I am out of a ward.
I will network toward a job but not at the cost of conversion. I feel similarly about any religion including Scientology. I have had a couple netwroking leads from them; but they can't do much for employing me either as their work force has people volunteer 10 to 12 hours per day for years before employing them (at a low wage) and then their entire life is about Scientology.
My interests are broader. I have dreams. At least Scientology offers courses with practical steps on how to make dreams come true.
I am sure all religious people mean well and are very nice; but in talking with the ladies at churches, they really are not much help other than prayer. God will do the rest. Even one of their own is struggling as a part-time teacher; no one there has stepped up to the plate to help her get a fulltime contract, and her husband is out of work too. It's about hunkering down until the economic winds get blowing again.
Or, it's about us setting our own sails and making our own wind, and getting people to see our vision of possibilities to get on board our ships to reach a similar destination. Helping others reach their paradise on earth is finding our peace on earth until it's time to go to heaven.
I like to think of it as Capital One's Motto: What's in your wallet? We have to value what's in us, before we can offer others something valuable. I am valuing gardening right now as a volunteer. But if it doesn't pay off with real money (a job/career) soon, I may have to abandon that ship, and settle for something else like a summer job with Orange County Office of Education. Then, I am letting the winds steer me instead of staying on course. But, we do what we have to based upon ability and availability.
As long as we do our best, God cannot expect more, nor should we of ourselves. I am doing my best. And, ' trying to rest in what God has instore for me.
Happy Easter/Passover Everyone.
Like most churches: They are only good for prayer. They do not help people get gainfully employed. Their real and main interest is in converting people (and getting their 10%.) I don't want to read the book of mormon (or the bible as mine is marked up plenty and rolled edges from much use), and it keeps getting pushed on me. I want to be accepted for who I am ( a good child of God, created by Him, not man[period]). Conversion rhymes in my mind with Coercion. God accepts us for who we are; why can't humans do the same.
You know me: I do not like dogma! I actually despise it. Humans make rule books to control the masses, and keep us in lowly places. The few at the top like it that way.
I do not believe or see mormans/catholics/baptists etc. being of any networking help to me. I already approached the two Chiropractor (priests) from that church (long before you took me to that church.) They know I need a job to pay for chiropractic, and they know I do Usana. Still, they told me a relative of theirs sells Usana so they can't help me. People with affiliations can come from anywhere. So I will keep seeking the Kingdom of God in all, not a specific ethnicity.
What~ever, I see wards (churches) as a closed shops; they only help their own, and I am not one of them.
Word: Ward is a word that has uncomfortable connotations for me.
Ward is to anguish as Mental Ward is to Locked up
Ward : control :: Prison Ward : serving a sentence
Ward : pain :: Maternity Ward : intense labor
None of these seem appealing to me. Relief comes when I am out of a ward.
I will network toward a job but not at the cost of conversion. I feel similarly about any religion including Scientology. I have had a couple netwroking leads from them; but they can't do much for employing me either as their work force has people volunteer 10 to 12 hours per day for years before employing them (at a low wage) and then their entire life is about Scientology.
My interests are broader. I have dreams. At least Scientology offers courses with practical steps on how to make dreams come true.
I am sure all religious people mean well and are very nice; but in talking with the ladies at churches, they really are not much help other than prayer. God will do the rest. Even one of their own is struggling as a part-time teacher; no one there has stepped up to the plate to help her get a fulltime contract, and her husband is out of work too. It's about hunkering down until the economic winds get blowing again.
Or, it's about us setting our own sails and making our own wind, and getting people to see our vision of possibilities to get on board our ships to reach a similar destination. Helping others reach their paradise on earth is finding our peace on earth until it's time to go to heaven.
I like to think of it as Capital One's Motto: What's in your wallet? We have to value what's in us, before we can offer others something valuable. I am valuing gardening right now as a volunteer. But if it doesn't pay off with real money (a job/career) soon, I may have to abandon that ship, and settle for something else like a summer job with Orange County Office of Education. Then, I am letting the winds steer me instead of staying on course. But, we do what we have to based upon ability and availability.
As long as we do our best, God cannot expect more, nor should we of ourselves. I am doing my best. And, ' trying to rest in what God has instore for me.
Happy Easter/Passover Everyone.
Sunday, February 12, 2012
Thursday, November 24, 2011
"It's not the glow you feel when snow appears;
it's not the Christmas card you've sent for years;
'not the joyful sound when sleigh bells ring;
nor the merry songs, children sing.
That little gift you send on Christmas day,
Will not bring back the friend you've turned away.
So may I suggest the 'Secret of Christmas'?
It's not the things you do at Christmas time,
but the Christmas things you do all year through."
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Book Review: My Journey, Stepping into the Sunshine
My Journey Stepping into the Sunshine is written by Kaoru Shinmon, a guy from ....Venice.. ..California..... His journey is now a book of hope. He was born in ....Hawaii.... and came here to follow his heart and pursue his dream to write screenplays. His journey, as is our, is to find positive purpose in our daily life. This book is filled with inspirational stories to help people give thanks, stop worrying and start living. There are charming memories of Kaoru's from his quaint encounters with famous people who he reminds us are human too. He also sings for several unsung heroes and heroines that are like "angels" who should not be taken for granted. When the sun comes up in the morning, he gives reason for us to say "Good morning." He has learned from key people in his life that "there are no accidents in life…." If your life has been turned upside down, or this economy made a turn for the worse in your path, this book will help you get back your "mojo" (magnetic quality).
If I were to sum up Kaoru in one word it would be Namaste. According to Wikipedia, "Namaste is a common spoken greeting or salutation originating from India It is a customary greeting when individuals meet, and a salutation upon their parting." In Yoga Journal, Aadil Palkhivala's states: "The gesture Namaste represents the belief that there is a Divine spark within each of us that is located in the heart chakra. The gesture is an acknowledgment of the soul in one by the soul in another. "Nama" means bow, "as" means I, and "te" means you. Therefore, Namaste literally means "bow me you" or "I bow to you." There is no doubt that Stepping into the Sunshine is a salute to all of those who know or want to know more about its author, Kaoru Shinmon whose name has a special meaning discovered within the book on his journey.
I commend Kaoru for what he does for humanity in his daily walk. He is just like anyone of us. Even he will tell you that it has been a challenge to change his self. He learned what he had to do: "Remove yourself, become what you aspire to be." He has had to steer clear of toxic relationships. And he has learned "When you see a person, see them as a human being in need…." How do you feel or respond when someone ask you "How are you?" in passing. Do you know if they really want to know? In most cases they don't want to know. Not so with Kaoru. He makes a point of saying, "How is your day going?" And, he will look into your eyes or leave droplets of words to let you know he cares about your soul and wants to know the answer, truly.
If you want to see what I am talking about go to http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/54514
I can attest to Kaoru's sincerity based solely upon his writings and recognition of hard times. See, I am one of the 20 to 25% of the population that has been downsized. I am a teacher of 16 years, who was derailed from massive state budget cuts. I did not worry about giving up tenure. I never had trouble getting a teaching job before and am successful getting the toughest of students motivated. So in part of my journey to adapt, I became adept with social media in 2008-2009. I became friends with Kaoru Shinmon on a few sites. We are both authors. His words have always been uplifting! When I teach I have very little time for pleasure reading. But the Internet gives us ability to read snippets with a purpose, to get to know people or subjects. The subject I like most is "getting to know people." I particularly wanted to get to know the person who has the ability to make people smile over many miles around the world. So, it is an honor to read and review this book about "Kaoru, My Journey Stepping into the Sunshine" and leading the way for others to do the same.
It is Kaoru's benign vulnerability and honesty that lends to clarity in his life, and he wants us to have the same peace in our human condition by Stepping into the Sunshine. He shows us how in this state we can be "synchronized" with "everything in life having its place and time." This truth is found in the bible. In the book of Ecclesiastes, Chapter 3, God's word states, "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven." So for what it may be worth Kaoru acknowledges that "For many of us life has changed with the time…leaving many people depressed and without hope." This book helps us not despair.
With regards to our despair, we must keep our wits about us when all around us many may be losing theirs. Kaoru shares the calm and clarity he has witnessed of people who learned from Buddhism. It is certain, "If we destroy something around us, we destroy ourselves…." The stories in this book prove that you can protect the light that is in you and bring light out of others. Some stories illustrate that one has to have wisdom when to walk away from or let go of those who cast darkness on people.
If you need hope now, go to http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/54514
Stepping into the Sunshine means not allowing others to destroy you! "Do not let someone else's bad day become yours." "Don't let fear stop you from doing what you soul dreams of doing." The cliché from Nike is not over-rated, 'Just Do It.' Kaoru sheds light into this book from Richard Collier, "…Turn your dream into a reality by changing your mind-set…Remove from your life what keeps you from being who you want to be." Stepping into the Sunshine includes lessons from Dr. Deepak Chopra, "…Don't fear problems; seek solutions." And, if you want to take one of the biggest lessons from this book, "DISCOVER THE MEANING OF RANDOM EVENTS…." It actually reminded me of the Celestine Prophecy coming true in Kaoru's life and how it can be true for us too.
You can get this as an e-book at this link: http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/54514
Stepping into the Sunshine will help you see that "…if you are truly happy, other people won't be able to bring you down by their judgments…." It is your "courage" that will make you able to change (under go "metamorphosis"). If you get help before you are ready like a caterpillar being cut out of the cocoon too soon, you won't be able to survive and fly. But on the other hand, don't be afraid to ask for help; don't let "pride and ego" get in the way of succeeding. Here's a key point, "…learn about life from living…." Find a mentor who knows what it takes to reach the ring! Kaoru is a positive role model to me and many other people to be positive to others and make people smile.
When you ease through this book, Stepping into the Sunshine, Kaoru has "prayers" to help you through heavy times in the day of a life. He brightens your journey with simplicity that he has learned on the road in his life. There are tips and techniques in this book from gratitude to thinking of new ways to achieve, to paying attention, to breathing, contributing to society, to letting go so that things can "flow", to meeting people in your field, to encouraging yourself when in self-doubt. Let your words have enough "power" to magnify your "convictions" and ignite you to take action. Be patient with yourself: Kaoru reminds us that "It takes time to live up to your potential and find your purpose." When you are in a slump, "walk" into the sunshine; "read" something that brings sunshine into your day especially when it is cloudy; "listen" to music that makes you take steps into the direction of your desires.
Here's the deal with dreams and dream-makers, as Mariah Carey sings, "…Don't let anyone take yours away." Kaoru believes whole-heartedly, "Nobody has the right to tell someone to give up on their dream…." When the fruits of our labor are not yet visible, he encourages us to trust "that the seeds we have planted are germinating beneath the surface and will soon sprout with new opportunities." And lastly, the messages in this book are demonstrative of the lives Kaoru Shinmon has touched, and that you, too, can positively touch the lives of others daily when you "step into the sunshine."
I highly recommend this book because it made me "smile," a lot even in these hard economic times. This book is about what really makes life rich. It'll put you in the right frame of mind and bring a smile to you too.
You can get it now by going to http://www.smashwords.com/books/view/54514
Contact Kaoru here on Mypace, Facebook or his website
http://steppingintosunshine.blogspot.com/
Book Review written by Kathleen Herriott, California Certificated Teacher, author, and public speaker.
Friday, March 25, 2011
A Tribute to My Dad's Legacy
The moment my dad fell in love with my mom, we became the luckiest people on the planet. He set an example of what characteristics make a good husband, father and life-long friend. His love for family is beyond measure. He gave us experiences that can never be taken away:
From the planning and hosting of huge parties, camping-excursions, and many other enriching projects, he modeled valuable work-ethics: He taught us how to be successful in life.
He taught us that “life is not about how many breaths we take, but about how many moments take our breath away.” An example of a breath taking moment is the vista of Yosemite. It is my favorite because he and mom went up the face of Half Dome together. He taught us bravery and perseverance when we hiked up trails to triumph when we reached the top. He gave us a snap-shot of geography when all four of us stood in the corner of four states. He intrigued us by driving over the Continental Divide and under the Wawona Tree. Because of our dad, we are fortunate to have witnessed the power of geysers and to have seen the majesty of the Grand Tetons. When I was a teen, we gained new found respect for God’s grace and Grizzlies when one moseyed under and around my hammock while I was sleeping!
Here is a man who feared God; my dad feared that he would not survive his first of three neck surgeries; he prayed with all his might to be able to hold his first grand-baby. God blessed him with 29 more years to lift up 11 grandchildren: My daughter who is the first (oldest), all her cousins, as well as his two great-grandchildren, who are my grandchildren.
Nearly every “morning” he sang the sweetest song to all of us that he had learned from his kindergarten teacher, "Good Morning to you; good morning to you. We're all in our places with sun-shiney faces. Good moring to you!" We sing it to his great-grand children; they will likely sing it to his great-great grandchildren. (This song is significant because kindergarten is where he and mom met.)
They were not “ships passing in the night;” they are soul-mates for life! This is his legacy: Love, with all that we have, through the last second of our lives. (He and mom were blessed, perhaps the luckiest couple on earth, to have been able to kissed on his last breath.)
Saturday, February 26, 2011
Three, Four, Five Generations, we are a lucky family.
How do families grieve? How does your family communicate about past generations? And, do we have to grieve, or is there a better way to say goodbye or not say good bye at all?
I wonder how many families have the opportunity to have five generations living at one time. Our family was a lucky one. I was sort of young to be a grandma, and so, the term "grandma" did not fit me well. And, with three other grandmas on two sides of a family who were alive at one time, when someone said "gran-ma" There was confusion as to which grandma should respond. So I jumped at this opportunity to be called "Nana" when my daughter asked me if that would be okay.
When I can get my computer equipment up, I'll post a picture of the five generations on my dad's side of the family here. It is an awe-striking tick of time when one sees a Great-great grandma hold their infant grandchild. We are lucky to have lived in an age of cameras and video! (Some people from poorer countries still do not have photo opportunities to pass down pictures of relatives.) Now we have the Internet to share images all over the world with each other. This is our time to tell real-life stories with pictures to pass down to loved ones. Even in this day and age, I have seen photos of 5th and 6th generations go right in the trash because no one knows their names or with whom they are related.
Fast-foward the clock to when a great-grand parent passes on, the fifth generation (the great-great grandkids so to speak) witness time behind the eyes of their elders with unaware sensitivity to how short life is because they have their whole life in front of them.
The fourth generation, who is closer to the second, will greive harder for it is the granparent who has an extra special bond with the children of their children. The special ties that allows us to be spoiled. As it should be because this is usually the longest bond that is all too short! It is the realiztion bond of how short life is. It is the bond where your grandparent (in my daughter's case) walked her down an isle and appluaded her at a graduation. You know in your heart and soul if it were not for them, you would not have existed.
The third generation, who experiences the loss of the 1st generation known to them, leads from their experience (bad or good but the best they could). Though your grandparents may have seemed old, you now know they weren't that old because your parents are now their age, and you are your parents age. Looking back, life is flashing in slow motion, but it feels like the Tiatanic is sinking. It's been one hell of a cruis--long but not long enough, and the eldest are simply not strong enough to hold on. They need a vacation from this adventure before they start the next. We all must go through the portal and we watch them lead the way.
We have them in our memories: Each generations has its funny, cooky, zanny or courageous or outrageous stories that may or may not get passed down to the younger family members. In many cases, it is only those stories that our successors have the chance to know their family history. Fortunately our family has some bits and pieces of information from 6 generations ago. But, bits and pieces are not enough to tell a complete story.
Yet, some of those small tidbits are significant! For instance, at my mom and dad's fiftieth wedding anniversary, the grandchildren had the sweetest and simplest things to say during the memorable toasts. They liked the way grandpa showed them how to eat oreos, or how he like to soak his shredded wheat until it is soggy. It's the idosyncrasies that people seem to remember the most. I still remember how one of my grandmas made me peanut butter and grape jelly sandwiches, the other made me creamy real butter and sugar sandwiches--Decadent and devilish now to think about eating. A lot of memories revolve around food and celebrations. And when you think about it, life is one big celebration. So how can we celebrate with the person who has to leave, we grieve.
It's the heart ache you feel when you leave a great job (life) and you know some people will never be in your life again. But, the truth of the matter is some people will and do keep in touch. And, the certainty is that significant experiences with people will never be taken away. They will always be in you memory, and buried deep in you heart, whether they were good or bad, happy or sad able to be voiced or not.
Maybe I am mistaken, but is there not enough literature or documentaries or movies on the subject of departing this world? Some how I think I would like to change that. I believe we are living in times where we can record our ancestory more accurately and infinitly pass true stories on to our grandchildren's children. "The writings are on the wall" already with the advent of Facebook and blogger pages. I believe we can help our children know where they came from and give them grounding like never before. "This is It;" we have the real opportunity to tell our stories that may live on for more than six generations. If you can't write it for yourself, hire someone who can. Interview your elders and capture the history they lived before their gone. Archive the cherished moments incase your memory fades. Find the purpose in their lives and yours and how each generation is affected by the former ones. What's in your wallet (photo album)? Don't regret not having spent time with them. If you did the best you could with the time you have had, there should be no regrets. If you believe in soul mates and re-incarnation that helps too. And if you know your loved one has faith in a supreme being and universal laws that sifts sand and lifts water to the sky, then your loved one will always be with you, in you and around you. Lean not on your understanding that this is not an end--but a new beginning.
I wonder how many families have the opportunity to have five generations living at one time. Our family was a lucky one. I was sort of young to be a grandma, and so, the term "grandma" did not fit me well. And, with three other grandmas on two sides of a family who were alive at one time, when someone said "gran-ma" There was confusion as to which grandma should respond. So I jumped at this opportunity to be called "Nana" when my daughter asked me if that would be okay.
When I can get my computer equipment up, I'll post a picture of the five generations on my dad's side of the family here. It is an awe-striking tick of time when one sees a Great-great grandma hold their infant grandchild. We are lucky to have lived in an age of cameras and video! (Some people from poorer countries still do not have photo opportunities to pass down pictures of relatives.) Now we have the Internet to share images all over the world with each other. This is our time to tell real-life stories with pictures to pass down to loved ones. Even in this day and age, I have seen photos of 5th and 6th generations go right in the trash because no one knows their names or with whom they are related.
Fast-foward the clock to when a great-grand parent passes on, the fifth generation (the great-great grandkids so to speak) witness time behind the eyes of their elders with unaware sensitivity to how short life is because they have their whole life in front of them.
The fourth generation, who is closer to the second, will greive harder for it is the granparent who has an extra special bond with the children of their children. The special ties that allows us to be spoiled. As it should be because this is usually the longest bond that is all too short! It is the realiztion bond of how short life is. It is the bond where your grandparent (in my daughter's case) walked her down an isle and appluaded her at a graduation. You know in your heart and soul if it were not for them, you would not have existed.
The third generation, who experiences the loss of the 1st generation known to them, leads from their experience (bad or good but the best they could). Though your grandparents may have seemed old, you now know they weren't that old because your parents are now their age, and you are your parents age. Looking back, life is flashing in slow motion, but it feels like the Tiatanic is sinking. It's been one hell of a cruis--long but not long enough, and the eldest are simply not strong enough to hold on. They need a vacation from this adventure before they start the next. We all must go through the portal and we watch them lead the way.
We have them in our memories: Each generations has its funny, cooky, zanny or courageous or outrageous stories that may or may not get passed down to the younger family members. In many cases, it is only those stories that our successors have the chance to know their family history. Fortunately our family has some bits and pieces of information from 6 generations ago. But, bits and pieces are not enough to tell a complete story.
Yet, some of those small tidbits are significant! For instance, at my mom and dad's fiftieth wedding anniversary, the grandchildren had the sweetest and simplest things to say during the memorable toasts. They liked the way grandpa showed them how to eat oreos, or how he like to soak his shredded wheat until it is soggy. It's the idosyncrasies that people seem to remember the most. I still remember how one of my grandmas made me peanut butter and grape jelly sandwiches, the other made me creamy real butter and sugar sandwiches--Decadent and devilish now to think about eating. A lot of memories revolve around food and celebrations. And when you think about it, life is one big celebration. So how can we celebrate with the person who has to leave, we grieve.
It's the heart ache you feel when you leave a great job (life) and you know some people will never be in your life again. But, the truth of the matter is some people will and do keep in touch. And, the certainty is that significant experiences with people will never be taken away. They will always be in you memory, and buried deep in you heart, whether they were good or bad, happy or sad able to be voiced or not.
Maybe I am mistaken, but is there not enough literature or documentaries or movies on the subject of departing this world? Some how I think I would like to change that. I believe we are living in times where we can record our ancestory more accurately and infinitly pass true stories on to our grandchildren's children. "The writings are on the wall" already with the advent of Facebook and blogger pages. I believe we can help our children know where they came from and give them grounding like never before. "This is It;" we have the real opportunity to tell our stories that may live on for more than six generations. If you can't write it for yourself, hire someone who can. Interview your elders and capture the history they lived before their gone. Archive the cherished moments incase your memory fades. Find the purpose in their lives and yours and how each generation is affected by the former ones. What's in your wallet (photo album)? Don't regret not having spent time with them. If you did the best you could with the time you have had, there should be no regrets. If you believe in soul mates and re-incarnation that helps too. And if you know your loved one has faith in a supreme being and universal laws that sifts sand and lifts water to the sky, then your loved one will always be with you, in you and around you. Lean not on your understanding that this is not an end--but a new beginning.
Monday, October 04, 2010
Losing count of the days of my life?
If I were in a confessional in the 1960s I would have started off with "Bless me Father for i have sinned it has been a week since my last confession...." This blogging stuff is sort of a confessional if one were to tell the truth, "the whole truth...." But We are selective what we share. I confess I am not a practicing Catholic anymore. But I certainly enjoy the fairs/festivals that they put on to raise funds for a new roof or something worthy like supporting their school or congregation. I enjoyed taking my grandchildren to such a fair on Friday night.
My grandson is 12 and his buddies are older. He felt appreciative that I sent him on his way with some tickets to go on a few rides and some money to buy food to hang with his friends. I was appreciative that his buddies acknowledged me with hugs and sincere handshakes and that the food was reasonably priced. I was also glad to watch my granddaughter on some rides that were too risking for my middle-aged neck, but I got to enjoy going on the merry-go-round with her and watch her do a few dances to an Irish jig band.
I remember my Catholic upbringing very well. It was good, wholesome and very meaningful. The meaning of life can be dulled as we get older because it is hard to keep up. It takes more time to read, write, clean, cook, run errands, etc. But one thing I intend to keep up with is technology and to learn from the young people who have a handle on how to use the Internet. I believe there are wholesome people out there who are making a difference and leading the way for others to live as God has planned for us and that is with a purpose until our last breath is taken.
My purpose seems to be evolving, and I am not sure where the "Artist's Way" will lead but here is a clip from a young many who has inspired me. I hope that he will inspire you too:
http://www.whoismikewatts.com/4-hour-work-week-by-timothy-ferriss.html/comment-page-1#comment-73
There is a new world for us in the future, and our future develops from what we do today. "Do Something" today that will help you get closer to what you think is your purpose.
My grandson is 12 and his buddies are older. He felt appreciative that I sent him on his way with some tickets to go on a few rides and some money to buy food to hang with his friends. I was appreciative that his buddies acknowledged me with hugs and sincere handshakes and that the food was reasonably priced. I was also glad to watch my granddaughter on some rides that were too risking for my middle-aged neck, but I got to enjoy going on the merry-go-round with her and watch her do a few dances to an Irish jig band.
I remember my Catholic upbringing very well. It was good, wholesome and very meaningful. The meaning of life can be dulled as we get older because it is hard to keep up. It takes more time to read, write, clean, cook, run errands, etc. But one thing I intend to keep up with is technology and to learn from the young people who have a handle on how to use the Internet. I believe there are wholesome people out there who are making a difference and leading the way for others to live as God has planned for us and that is with a purpose until our last breath is taken.
My purpose seems to be evolving, and I am not sure where the "Artist's Way" will lead but here is a clip from a young many who has inspired me. I hope that he will inspire you too:
http://www.whoismikewatts.com/4-hour-work-week-by-timothy-ferriss.html/comment-page-1#comment-73
There is a new world for us in the future, and our future develops from what we do today. "Do Something" today that will help you get closer to what you think is your purpose.
Thursday, September 23, 2010
Today is the second day of the rest of my life
Yesterday, I had a panic attack when it came to scanning my old resume onto my daughter's computer. If you don't have an autoimmune disease you may not understand the ramifications of a panic attack. A person with an autoimmune disorder may find their body revolting at the thought of a a stressful event. By the end of the day right after dinner, my day was done. I went to bed in pain and took all the herbs, meds and vitamins I could. In the middle of the night I had acid reflux which I have not had in years! Why, because my life style sucked yesterday: I ate way too late and went to bed early.
I took a yoga class for the second time yesterday and found it very difficult, but hey at least I was there and trying to do the poses. What I should have paid attention to is that small voice in side my head saying you don't need a six inch Subway tuna sandwhich; you only need a couple inches to be satisfied. So when am I going to listen to my mind to have control over my body? Today I tell you; I promise to do right by me and you! I have had better days, and I will show you from now on!
I have made a vow to blog seriously how we can manage to overcome degenerative diseases from my home to yours. I have diseases like Fibromayalgia, Sjorgren's Syndrome, and more. I am off to see the chiropractor now. Talk to you afterwards.
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Well I am back from the doctors'. Apparently I have an infection in my throat and air ways. That explains why I am aching all over and fatigued and wanting food to comfort me. I am glad to know it's not me and my normalacy or maladies. Antibiotics will be started, and I should be back to my energetic self in a few days. However, I must say that they (the doctor) had me alarmed yesterday.
Yesterday, I had to have an MRI and CAT Scan because the doctor needed to follow up on an image of my spine (cervical area and brain, esp. the stem)taken 4 years ago. See each time I meet an efficient doctor they educate me more on Sjogren's and Fibromayalgia. Sjogren's has a great probability of turning into esophical cancer. Yikes is right to keep a close watch on me. There was suspicion of MS from 4 years ago that had to be ruled out, and it was cleared yesterday! But my lymphnodes under my jaw and on both sides of my neck are quite swollen and that is why I feel under the weather.
Now I am not alarmed. I will get to start antibiotics and expect the infection to go away. As a precaution they have ordered another cat scan in 7 days before my medical insurance runs out and full blood pannel tomorrow. My only alarm right now is what is going to happen in 8 days when I no longer can pay for Cobra ($1180 per month). I will be at the mercy of the new government plan.
So if I were to start counting how many days I may have to live, I expect at least 1000 more Saturdays. I would like to remain healthy through my 80s. (Maybe more) I will keep track of those Saturdays here on this blog to keep hope for people who have degenerative diseases or oxidative stress that cause inflammatory conditions like heart disease, diabetes, arthritis, etc.
There is a lot to be said for what we eat, nutritional supplements and activity. A prime model of healthy living comes from Jack LaLane. Did you know he is 97 years old this year? I need to implement his advice sooner than later. Juiceing is delicious but I can't afford to buy bunches of carrots, spinach, celery etc to put into one cup each day. So, I rely heavily on high quality vitamins and minerals and other optimizing agents. If I am going to have a prediposition, I am going to put up strong defenses! What are you predisposed to? Are you going to fight it or give into health problems?
There is another source of comfort and strength in a book that addresses our stresses that age us before our time and how we can connect our Body, Soul (mind), and Spirit. It is written by Dr. Ray Strand and Bill Ewing, called Living By Design. I firmly believe God has a plan for each of us and I want to live by mine. I want others to live by theirs. I want you who read this to be true to your master plan. I do not believe that God wants us to wither away in a rest home. If you are in a rest home, find your purpose for the time you have left. Find joy in living minute by minute. How many Saturdays will you get?
I took a yoga class for the second time yesterday and found it very difficult, but hey at least I was there and trying to do the poses. What I should have paid attention to is that small voice in side my head saying you don't need a six inch Subway tuna sandwhich; you only need a couple inches to be satisfied. So when am I going to listen to my mind to have control over my body? Today I tell you; I promise to do right by me and you! I have had better days, and I will show you from now on!
I have made a vow to blog seriously how we can manage to overcome degenerative diseases from my home to yours. I have diseases like Fibromayalgia, Sjorgren's Syndrome, and more. I am off to see the chiropractor now. Talk to you afterwards.
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Well I am back from the doctors'. Apparently I have an infection in my throat and air ways. That explains why I am aching all over and fatigued and wanting food to comfort me. I am glad to know it's not me and my normalacy or maladies. Antibiotics will be started, and I should be back to my energetic self in a few days. However, I must say that they (the doctor) had me alarmed yesterday.
Yesterday, I had to have an MRI and CAT Scan because the doctor needed to follow up on an image of my spine (cervical area and brain, esp. the stem)taken 4 years ago. See each time I meet an efficient doctor they educate me more on Sjogren's and Fibromayalgia. Sjogren's has a great probability of turning into esophical cancer. Yikes is right to keep a close watch on me. There was suspicion of MS from 4 years ago that had to be ruled out, and it was cleared yesterday! But my lymphnodes under my jaw and on both sides of my neck are quite swollen and that is why I feel under the weather.
Now I am not alarmed. I will get to start antibiotics and expect the infection to go away. As a precaution they have ordered another cat scan in 7 days before my medical insurance runs out and full blood pannel tomorrow. My only alarm right now is what is going to happen in 8 days when I no longer can pay for Cobra ($1180 per month). I will be at the mercy of the new government plan.
So if I were to start counting how many days I may have to live, I expect at least 1000 more Saturdays. I would like to remain healthy through my 80s. (Maybe more) I will keep track of those Saturdays here on this blog to keep hope for people who have degenerative diseases or oxidative stress that cause inflammatory conditions like heart disease, diabetes, arthritis, etc.
There is a lot to be said for what we eat, nutritional supplements and activity. A prime model of healthy living comes from Jack LaLane. Did you know he is 97 years old this year? I need to implement his advice sooner than later. Juiceing is delicious but I can't afford to buy bunches of carrots, spinach, celery etc to put into one cup each day. So, I rely heavily on high quality vitamins and minerals and other optimizing agents. If I am going to have a prediposition, I am going to put up strong defenses! What are you predisposed to? Are you going to fight it or give into health problems?
There is another source of comfort and strength in a book that addresses our stresses that age us before our time and how we can connect our Body, Soul (mind), and Spirit. It is written by Dr. Ray Strand and Bill Ewing, called Living By Design. I firmly believe God has a plan for each of us and I want to live by mine. I want others to live by theirs. I want you who read this to be true to your master plan. I do not believe that God wants us to wither away in a rest home. If you are in a rest home, find your purpose for the time you have left. Find joy in living minute by minute. How many Saturdays will you get?
Friday, April 30, 2010
Have Will Travel
I am giving this to all my family, friends and colleagues or business associates.
I just realized many of you may be getting ready to take vacations or needed trips.
The website below is a good source for navigating the costs and benefits of your next trip.
Let me know what you think and if this site helped you:
Check out the following website www.hhh-discounttravel.com
Find the lowest prices for flights, hotels and car rentals and even cruises.
You will be amazed; I was. Now I know where to go to get the best deals
and conveniently make my reservations on line. You can too.
Have the time of your life. Plan your vacations now!
Go to www.hhh-discounttravel.com
In this economy,
You deserve discounts.
"You deserve a break today!"
Have Hope in Humanity.
Go to www.hhh-discounttravel.com
Be of True Health and Wealth,
Kathleen
Ambassador of Change
"I am personally convinced that one person can be a change catalyst, a "transformer" in any situation, any organization. Such an individual is yeast that can leaven an entire loaf. It requires vision, initiative, patience, respect, persistence, courage, and faith to be a transforming leader." ~~Stephen R. Covey
I just realized many of you may be getting ready to take vacations or needed trips.
The website below is a good source for navigating the costs and benefits of your next trip.
Let me know what you think and if this site helped you:
Check out the following website www.hhh-discounttravel.com
Find the lowest prices for flights, hotels and car rentals and even cruises.
You will be amazed; I was. Now I know where to go to get the best deals
and conveniently make my reservations on line. You can too.
Have the time of your life. Plan your vacations now!
Go to www.hhh-discounttravel.com
In this economy,
You deserve discounts.
"You deserve a break today!"
Have Hope in Humanity.
Go to www.hhh-discounttravel.com
Be of True Health and Wealth,
Kathleen
Ambassador of Change
"I am personally convinced that one person can be a change catalyst, a "transformer" in any situation, any organization. Such an individual is yeast that can leaven an entire loaf. It requires vision, initiative, patience, respect, persistence, courage, and faith to be a transforming leader." ~~Stephen R. Covey
Sunday, February 28, 2010
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Sunday, September 27, 2009
I Did It My Way
I just want to be me through and through-- no holds barred! I have spent the day listening to music that makes me feel good and that inspires me to live my dreams. I would rather be dead if I could not listen to my music when I want to or sing when I want to or get up and dance when I feel like it. I am no longer frustrated with a situation; I am letting go.
I like to be happy, and if things don't always go according to how I expect, I still want to treat people with grace and kindness. I know people can get a lot more with honey than vinegar. But I do not want to be a mouse in a kitchen corner barely making a pip or squeak. I do know that there are some battles not worth picking and that people need to just be. Be who they are. Exist.
If I were to critique every move they make, that is not fair to them and vise versa. One of my main goals in life is to be kind and kind-er all of the time. To be revered, ultimately, is to be empowered. Attraction: sometimes the very thing we are attracted to are the qualities we do not have in ourself. But, somethimes (more often than not) the obesrvations we make that we find distasteful are the very things we have in ourselves. So the truth seems to hurt.
If we don't like negativity in others, should that not mean that we also do not like that trait in ourselves, hum? Well, I think that it is true. So how do we get past our own criticisms and change our own faults or learn to accept that fault in others?
At N E rate, I would like to face up and start each morning making people feel good even if they did not give me the right direction, best service or assistance. What sweat is it off my neck to allow them to be human and just roll with the ups and downs of the circumstance? No sweat, no sweat at all to be sweet to everyone. There is no need to bully, boss, scold, raise one's voice, roll our eyes and other things to indicate distaste. If I actually had to taste a lemon it is hard not to make a face.
So how do we kindly let someone know that we are uncomfortable, embarassed or threatened by what they do? If we use our normal voice without facial expressions, we are not believed. It is when we raise volume, stomp our foot or show outrage that we usually get the reaction we desire (cater to me or I will raise a stink). Humh.
I think that if enough humans learned to respond appropriately to boisterously-gruff people, maybe they would learn to not throw tempertantrums. [Who on earth has the stamin for this? Not me, I am no Mother Teresa] Does that mean we treat them like parenting books advise us to treat toddlers. Heck no. We are talking about grown-ups. I have heard it is effective to set boundaries and consequences if a line is crossed.
But what does this put at risk? The end of a business or partnership, loss of a client or relationship? Sad to say usually yes. (Unless your a married couple who has this figured out.)
A fact of life: People do not have to tolerate negative vibrations. But, if you can't get out of the kitchen with the person change the kind of heat you are cooking with: Kill 'em with kindness. Coals, hot ones at that, are what kindness can feel like to people who want to ruffle your feathers or get their way by protesting. They tend to be the ones that get more upset, and then eventually, they leave you alone, quit or stop doing business with you. And, you won't mind if they leave when they are abusive whenever they have entered your environment. I always like to see the sign at a counter, "We reserve the right to refuse service."
How can a person stay mad at you if you are nothing but kind? Well they can because it is just who they are. When they continue to be that way, then I guess you have to look for another kitchen to work in. In the mean time, still be kind. Hold your head high and know that you did nothing wrong. [And know that to them, they probably did nothing wrong either.] It's a matter of styles and strategies. Find one that fits you strong enough that you will not be shaken by another persons way of manipulating a situation.
Search for the people who lift you up and lift up others around them. If the checker is having a hard time, show some empathy. If the waitress forgets your request, be gracious since you are not in their skin at that moment.
For God's sake, can't we just be nice no matter what. If a business really messed up, what good does it do to get mad? Does it lower blood pressure like a pressure cooker that is released at it's boiling point? Maybe a little, but the pressure is still high enough to make a screaming scene until the pressure is safely released. Become a slow cooker, and allow your organ meats (mind & heart) to soften your soul and still keep your flavor and savvey. Allow people to lift your lid now and then to smell your aroma and stir your consistency and taste if you are bitter or sweet. The cook might be able to add an ingredient to help your recipe for peace. With any luck you won't stick to the pot by getting too hot.! Or not. It is really up to each of us to handle how we stew. I hope this help give folks food for thought.
I like to be happy, and if things don't always go according to how I expect, I still want to treat people with grace and kindness. I know people can get a lot more with honey than vinegar. But I do not want to be a mouse in a kitchen corner barely making a pip or squeak. I do know that there are some battles not worth picking and that people need to just be. Be who they are. Exist.
If I were to critique every move they make, that is not fair to them and vise versa. One of my main goals in life is to be kind and kind-er all of the time. To be revered, ultimately, is to be empowered. Attraction: sometimes the very thing we are attracted to are the qualities we do not have in ourself. But, somethimes (more often than not) the obesrvations we make that we find distasteful are the very things we have in ourselves. So the truth seems to hurt.
If we don't like negativity in others, should that not mean that we also do not like that trait in ourselves, hum? Well, I think that it is true. So how do we get past our own criticisms and change our own faults or learn to accept that fault in others?
At N E rate, I would like to face up and start each morning making people feel good even if they did not give me the right direction, best service or assistance. What sweat is it off my neck to allow them to be human and just roll with the ups and downs of the circumstance? No sweat, no sweat at all to be sweet to everyone. There is no need to bully, boss, scold, raise one's voice, roll our eyes and other things to indicate distaste. If I actually had to taste a lemon it is hard not to make a face.
So how do we kindly let someone know that we are uncomfortable, embarassed or threatened by what they do? If we use our normal voice without facial expressions, we are not believed. It is when we raise volume, stomp our foot or show outrage that we usually get the reaction we desire (cater to me or I will raise a stink). Humh.
I think that if enough humans learned to respond appropriately to boisterously-gruff people, maybe they would learn to not throw tempertantrums. [Who on earth has the stamin for this? Not me, I am no Mother Teresa] Does that mean we treat them like parenting books advise us to treat toddlers. Heck no. We are talking about grown-ups. I have heard it is effective to set boundaries and consequences if a line is crossed.
But what does this put at risk? The end of a business or partnership, loss of a client or relationship? Sad to say usually yes. (Unless your a married couple who has this figured out.)
A fact of life: People do not have to tolerate negative vibrations. But, if you can't get out of the kitchen with the person change the kind of heat you are cooking with: Kill 'em with kindness. Coals, hot ones at that, are what kindness can feel like to people who want to ruffle your feathers or get their way by protesting. They tend to be the ones that get more upset, and then eventually, they leave you alone, quit or stop doing business with you. And, you won't mind if they leave when they are abusive whenever they have entered your environment. I always like to see the sign at a counter, "We reserve the right to refuse service."
How can a person stay mad at you if you are nothing but kind? Well they can because it is just who they are. When they continue to be that way, then I guess you have to look for another kitchen to work in. In the mean time, still be kind. Hold your head high and know that you did nothing wrong. [And know that to them, they probably did nothing wrong either.] It's a matter of styles and strategies. Find one that fits you strong enough that you will not be shaken by another persons way of manipulating a situation.
Search for the people who lift you up and lift up others around them. If the checker is having a hard time, show some empathy. If the waitress forgets your request, be gracious since you are not in their skin at that moment.
For God's sake, can't we just be nice no matter what. If a business really messed up, what good does it do to get mad? Does it lower blood pressure like a pressure cooker that is released at it's boiling point? Maybe a little, but the pressure is still high enough to make a screaming scene until the pressure is safely released. Become a slow cooker, and allow your organ meats (mind & heart) to soften your soul and still keep your flavor and savvey. Allow people to lift your lid now and then to smell your aroma and stir your consistency and taste if you are bitter or sweet. The cook might be able to add an ingredient to help your recipe for peace. With any luck you won't stick to the pot by getting too hot.! Or not. It is really up to each of us to handle how we stew. I hope this help give folks food for thought.
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